Step Out & Thrive Ministries with Bethany Boring
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Quit Asking The Why Question

If the definition of insanity is to perform the same action repeatedly expecting a different result – why do I find myself constantly asking the “Why” question in my conversations with God?


You know the “Why” questions, right?


Why God did you allow this person to pass away?

Why God am I in this situation right now?

Why God are you allowing my kids to suffer?

Why God are you allowing my health to suffer so much right now?


We all have the “Why” question or questions that leave us stuck. The question that reappears when life gets rough. The question we ask out of anger, out of hurt and in response to real pain.


Can I ask you something? Has your asking the “Why” question ever helped you out of a difficult situation or does it simply make matters worse? For me personally, I’ve always found myself relating to the latter scenario.


This week during my prayer journaling, I noticed my “Why” questions just flowing from my pen. It was right at this moment that God reminded me of a passage from a sermon I had been replaying back a few times over the past few days. Perhaps you have heard this story before?


As he passed by, he saw a man blind from birth. 2 And his disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?” 3 Jesus answered, “It was not that this man sinned, or his parents, but that the works of God might be displayed in him. 4 We must work the works of him who sent me while it is day; night is coming, when no one can work. 5 As long as I am in the world, I am the light of the world.” 6 Having said these things, he spit on the ground and made mud with the saliva. Then he anointed the man’s eyes with the mud7 and said to him, “Go, wash in the pool of Siloam” (which means Sent). So he went and washed and came back seeing. (John 9:1-7 ESV)


I could go into great detail here, but I will stick to the main point. Simply, Jesus points the disciples back to how the glory of God was going to be displayed in this man’s circumstance. The disciples wanted to play the “Why” game asking to place the blame on the man or his parents. Jesus wasn’t interested in going there. Instead, Jesus knew that this man was going to be used in the middle of his circumstance to reflect the glory of God.


Maybe instead of “Why”, we should focus on “How.”


God, HOW do You want to use me to bring You glory in this situation?


After all, it’s not a question of the size of your faith, but rather how big is your God?


The “Why” question always leads to a dead-end. The “how” question allows us to look for God’s power, purpose and plan in the middle of our pain.


“Why” limits our hope.

“How” increases our faith.


The choice is up to you.


I’m beginning to catch myself spiraling with my “Why” questions. It can really spiral me downward quickly. God has been working on me to change not only my words but increase my trust in Him.


Start today. Reframe your situation.


“God, how do You want to use me to bring You glory in the middle of _____________.”


No rush. Take your time.


After you lay your situation our boldly before Him, sit quietly and wait for His response. It may not come immediately, but pay attention to what God is doing in, through and around you.


Look for Him in the middle of your “How” and not at the end of your “Why.”


Dare to do more than just survive, step out and thrive!

About the Author Bethany

Hello and welcome to Step Out And Thrive Ministries! My name is Bethany Boring and I am proud to be called a child of God before any other title or role. I am a mom to 3 amazing boys. I enjoy writing for this Step Out And Thrive community and walking with you as we venture through the ups and downs of life together. I am an ICF trained Certified Professional Christian Life Coach (Christian Coach Institute Graduate), Motivational and Inspirational Speaker, mentor, Certified Human Behavioral Consultant (DISC Personality) and an author. As always - dare to do more than just survive, step out and thrive!

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