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Ready To Walk On Water?

I love Peter's experience of walking on the roaring sea with Jesus. But the thing is, Peter's story is often misunderstood. Do you have a step you need to take?

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New Well Life


Everyday, one of the first glimpses of value we seen in ourselves lies in the staring contest we have with our own reflection. As the bathroom mirror and I greet one another each morning, some conversations are better than others.

Well, you look exhausted.” 

Well, I guess it’s time for a haircut.” 

“That running you are doing, well – girl – it’s working for you. Just sayin'” 

“Well now, who moved my contac solution…again…?” 

Well woah…Well woah…that wasn’t toothpaste, it was Neosporin.” 


Then there are the hard mornings. Those awakenings that greet me quite differently.

Well, today my baby leaves for school.” 

Well, I can’t go through another day of chemo…please don’t make me go.” 

“Oh well. I have no job. I’m so tired of looking. I want to give up.”

And the most interesting revelation in all of these conversations – the same two eyes stare right back at me. Every morning. It’s almost as if I reach the bathroom door praying God did a miracle over night and somehow miraculously changed my appearance transforming my perspective. (Creams don’t do that well either I might add).

I wonder how many times you have found yourself looking at your reflection in defeat. You aren’t where you want to be in life. The eyes staring back at you stamp the word “failure” in big red letters across your forehead. No matter how many hurdles you jump, mountains you climb, success you want so badly to see in yourself – your reflection remains unchanged.

I wonder how our reflective thinking would change if we allowed Jesus into our “well” every morning. 


[tweetthis]How to invite Jesus into your “well” moments[/tweetthis]

You see, I know it’s hard to believe, but women did not have mirrors in Jesus’ day. Wait, I wonder if they relied on others to politely point out the piece of food sticking out of their two front teeth? Or even worse – how in the world did they ever do their wardrobe selfies and post to Facebook without a full length mirror present? I know, serious complications back in the day.

Yet, most women did see their reflections during a daily routine they carried on every morning and evening for their families. Women often made trips to the well to gather water for their household needs. Due to the sun’s intensity, it was common to make this trip early in the morning or in the evening.

As women gather water, they can catch a glimpse of their reflection deep in the well, defining their worth as their bucket comes back into view from the deep well’s tunnel. I wonder what these women saw every morning and every evening looking back at them in their water pail?

I wonder if silently they yearned for more than what they saw there in that moment. 

I wonder if any of us ever see our reflection and want more too. 

The Samaritan woman in John chapter 4 did. (Read her story at the bottom of today’s post…just in case you need a little refreshing).

You see, her reflection labeled her the outcast of her town. She was to be used. She had given-up on true love. Perhaps, she felt like she had nothing left at this point, causing her to venture routinely to the well alone during one of the hottest times of the day. She despised looking at her reflection, yet maybe it comforted her to take the glance in the privacy of the moment.

For nobody took these trips with her.

Nobody chose to tell her otherwise.

Nobody believed that there was more to her than what she saw on a daily basis.

Until she learned to look elsewhere, beyond the reflection that defined her.

Because, of course, Jesus was right here, in the middle of the heat of the day, at her well, waiting for her arrival.

Have you ever noticed how the Bible says that he “had” to go through Samaria?

There were other routes, clearly labeled. This was a track way off the interstate down a road that had barely been traveled. A path Jesus seemed called to take.

Because Jesus knew there was more.

This woman had no husband to call her own.

Well, Jesus saw more.

This woman was completely alone.

Well, Jesus was present. 

This woman suffered during the heat of the day.

Well, Jesus conquered the cross. 

This woman needed a reason to keep going.

Well, Jesus offered a stream of life that would never cease from flowing in and through her. 

And her reflection began to change. 

I wonder if she continued to gather water during the heat of the day or if she conquered taking the trip with others?

I wonder if she welcomed the spring from within? 

The reflection staring at you in the mirror this morning dares to define you right down to the core…

But wait…

During the heat of this battle, dear friend, remember you are not alone. 

He is at your well. 

There is a lot more that lies beyond the surface that the mirror fails to tell.

Can you feel the spring of life that He has placed inside of you? For when you look into His water within you my friend, the most amazing reflection indeed awaits you. Instead of seeing whatever you may believe you have to offer, in His stream, in His promises and in His Truth you will always find more.

You will always find His reflection, not yours. 

[tweetthis]His Truth changes your WELL into His WILL. [/tweetthis]

Now Jesus learned that the Pharisees had heard that he was gaining and baptizing more disciples than John— although in fact it was not Jesus who baptized, but his disciples. So he left Judea and went back once more to Galilee. Now he had to go through Samaria. So he came to a town in Samaria called Sychar, near the plot of ground Jacob had given to his son Joseph. Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired as he was from the journey, sat down by the well. It was about noon. When a Samaritan woman came to draw water, Jesus said to her, “Will you give me a drink?” (His disciples had gone into the town to buy food.) The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews do not associate with Samaritans. ) Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.” “Sir,” the woman said, “you have nothing to draw with and the well is deep. Where can you get this living water? Are you greater than our father Jacob, who gave us the well and drank from it himself, as did also his sons and his livestock?” Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.” He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.” “Sir,” the woman said, “I can see that you are a prophet. Our ancestors worshiped on this mountain, but you Jews claim that the place where we must worship is in Jerusalem.” “Woman,” Jesus replied, “believe me, a time is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. You Samaritans worship what you do not know; we worship what we do know, for salvation is from the Jews. Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Spirit and in truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth.” The woman said, “I know that Messiah” (called Christ) “is coming. When he comes, he will explain everything to us.” Then Jesus declared, “I, the one speaking to you—I am he.” (‭John‬ ‭4‬:‭1-26‬ NIV)


About the Author Bethany

Hello and welcome to Step Out And Thrive Ministries! My name is Bethany Boring and I am proud to be called a child of God before any other title or role. I am a mom to 3 amazing boys. I enjoy writing for this Step Out And Thrive community and walking with you as we venture through the ups and downs of life together. I am an ICF trained Certified Professional Christian Life Coach (Christian Coach Institute Graduate), Motivational and Inspirational Speaker, mentor, Certified Human Behavioral Consultant (DISC Personality) and an author. As always - dare to do more than just survive, step out and thrive!

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Natalie says January 14, 2015

Mmmmm. That’s such great truth. Wow. Just wow. What a revelation. I pretty sure just about every woman on the planet needs to read this and could benefit from it.

    Bethany says January 14, 2015

    Thanks Natalie! I’m hoping all who find rest here can also discover something to chew on from God. Thanks for reading!

Becky Keife says January 14, 2015

Doesn’t it always come back to the Truth as the only real source of transformation, perspective changing? Without Jesus we’ll keep seeing the same “well” thing in that mirror. But I’m with you. I want to see His will! Lovely words here.

    Bethany says January 14, 2015

    Oh yes Becky…it’s hard to press past these “well” things sometimes. It hard to make ourselves trust and look for God in our circumstances. It’s a hard choice sometimes – but one that leads to a continual freedom in Him. Great insights!! Thanks!

Martha Mason says January 14, 2015

thanks Bethany for encouraging wellness! through finding Jesus!

    Bethany says January 14, 2015

    It’s the only way I know Martha! Thanks!

Kristin Hill Taylor says January 14, 2015

I love this! I’m going to look at the word “well …” differently now. Thanks for sharing at #ThreeWordWednesday.

    Bethany says January 14, 2015

    Great Kristin!! Love connecting with you every week friend!

Debra Alexander says January 14, 2015

That is beautifully and thought provokingly written. I am glad my reflection is in Him alone.

    Bethany says January 14, 2015

    Debra – Sometimes it’s just comforting to know where our true identity is found. Sometimes, we just need a reminder (or at least I do).

Susan Shipe says January 14, 2015

Always, exceptional writing, Bethany.

    Bethany says January 14, 2015

    Thanks for the encouragement Susan!!

~Karrilee~ says January 14, 2015

Oh friend… this was SO GOOD!!! I love it! I will not whisper “Well” without remember this… so thanks for that! (No, really! Thank you!)

    Bethany says January 14, 2015

    Your comments always make me smile! I want to write in a way that I hope readers connect. Thanks for making me realize this message got through without losing its meaning!

Tara says January 14, 2015

Bethany, I’ve been on both sides too but it’s the same face looking through that mirror. Funny how I read this after Confirmation class tonight where one of my kids asked the faith question “What does it mean to be made in the ‘image of God?'” It means we reflect God’s image. We reflect who God created us to be! “Fearfully and wonderfully made!!”

    Bethany says January 14, 2015

    Tara – Oh I LOVE the image of God question coming from kids! That is so fun to teach!!!!

KC says January 15, 2015

This is so wonderfully written! Perhaps tomorrow when I look in the mirror I will look a little differently:)

    Bethany says January 20, 2015

    I hope you do!!!! Thanks so much for stopping by friend!!

Debbie W. says January 15, 2015

WELL we are on the same page at least on the mirror part. LOL! Loved this, but how can I not. Your writing is awesome. HUGS!

    Bethany says January 20, 2015

    Awww…I’m just glad we share this passion for writing (and we are both using our talents well in my humble opinion!). You inspire me!!

Jess Elyse says January 17, 2015

Great encouragement! I’m definitely going to remember this more, especially those mornings where I feel rushed and unworthy. Love this: “His truth changes your well into His will.”

    Bethany says January 20, 2015

    I loved that phrase too! God is good!!!

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